Friday, September 1, 2017

One 'Ring' to Rule Them All

"Remember—peace is how we make it."



            “I wish I had brothers and sisters,” little Richy complained. “There’s nobody to talk to when it’s raining.” If that had been the worst problem this little boy had when he was growing up, his childhood would have been most uneventful.
            Sadly, he was ill so much of his young life that other children called him “Hospital Boy”  and “Lazarus.” He had been healthy the first years of his life, but when he was six in 1947, he developed appendicitis. An ambulance raced him to the children’s hospital, but it was too late—His appendix had burst, and he had developed peritonitis, a potentially fatal inflammation of the abdominal lining.
            Three times that night the doctors told his mother Elsie he would not live until dawn. For the next few days he went in and out of a coma. In fact, for the next four months he continued to go in and out of consciousness.
            To help the stitches heal, the doctors and nurses ordered him to lie still in bed. He hadn’t yet learned to read or write. The boredom was excruciating. Then one day while trying to play with another child, he fell out of bed. His stitches ripped open, lengthening his hospital stay into 1948.

In the Dingle

            By summer Richy was home, but he had fallen far behind in school. His teachers ignored him. He would never catch up and, as a result, never learned to spell and wrote words phonetically. He rarely read anything besides comic books.
Then when he was 14 in 1954, ill health befell him again. He developed pleurisy, an inflammation of the lining of the chest around the lungs. After 10 weeks in the hospital, his doctors diagnosed tuberculosis. It was likely caused by the foul air pollution in his town and the close and damp living quarters in the Dingle, the slum where he lived. He would stay in a sanitarium through most of 1955.
 From time to time, teachers came in. He learned crafts such as basket making and knitting. One day a music teacher came in with assorted percussion instruments. She quickly learned that Richy wouldn't take part unless she gave him a drum to play.
The sanitarium allowed the children to watch television for an hour a day. One evening Richy saw a drummer on a variety show twirl his drumsticks. “Wow! Look at this man,” he said. “Twiddling the sticks!”
When he was released, he went back to school but only to pick up a document certifying his eligibility for the dole, unemployment money from the government. Getting the school to give him that piece of paper was problem, too. He’d been there so rarely, it had a hard time finding any record he'd ever attended.
He was homely looking and weak from his medical woes, which had left a grey streak in his hair above his left ear. 
“I'm quite happy inside,” he said. “It's just the face won't smile.” The Dingle was rough. Most teens were in gangs. "You kept your head down, your eyes open, and you didn't get in anybody's way,” he said.

"Drive 'em all mad"

Richy was good at running away, not fighting. “I got beaten up a few times,” recalled. “It's that terrible craziness, that gang situation, where, if you're not fighting an outsider, you get crazy and start fighting amongst yourselves, like mad dogs.”
He spent his days idling about. He sang in a church choir. He wasn’t strong enough to work at a job bundling newspapers. He couldn't pass the physical exam to become a railway worker and was laid off. He found work as a waiter on ferry but quit fearing that he might be drafted and the navy would think he was fit for sea duty. Finally, he got a job as an apprentice metalworker, joined a union, learned how to use a lathe.


            With what spare change Richy had, he bought a 50-inch diameter bass drum from a junk store, and he delighted in playing it on family occasions. “Used to drive 'em all mad,” he recalled.
            Perhaps because he lacked physical strength, he compensated by developing a flamboyant style. For his sixteenth birthday his mother gave him a signet ring. Then he got an engagement ring from a girlfriend. When his grandfather died, he started wearing his wedding ring, and, finally, for his twenty-first birthday his mother gave him another ring. People started calling him Ringo.
            Tomorrow never knows, and soon thereafter and for eight days a week for most of the 1960s, with a little help from his friends, he became the most well-known drummer in the world in the most famous band in the world. He knew how to make the other guys in the band laugh. They became the brothers he never had.
"The feel I have…that just comes from God,” Ringo once said. “I truly believe that my heartbeat keeps the tempo, because I naturally have great time….I just have great time, and that’s the rhythm of my heart and my soul."
For Ringo Starr, nothing came easy. As he wrote in a song, “Got to pay your dues if you wanna sing the blues, and you know it don't come easy….Remember—peace is how we make it. Here within your reach, if you're big enough to take it.”


MORAL: Keep on smiling.

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