“…Made it their
study to show me every mark of regard.”
Impetuous
might be a good word to describe Margaret Moncrieffe. A 14-year-old runaway,
she dined with George Washington on the eve of the British invasion of New York
City in 1776.
Washington
did not attend the Continental Congress in Philadelphia that year—and therefore
did not sign the Declaration of Independence—because as commander of the
continental armies, such as they were, he had taken residence in Manhattan,
spending his days not with the complexities of political philosophy but struggling
with a far more tangible and fearful problem—how to defend the island
from a British armada that had filled New York City’s harbor in preparation for
a Normandy-style landing of thousands of battle-hardened soldiers.
Washington's task did was far from promising. On July 12—only three days after he ordered the Declaration read aloud to his troops—two British warships left the
main body of ships arrayed at anchor. Together they sailed up the Hudson River.
One of the vessels had 40 guns, the other 20. Together, as they glided by
unscathed, they pounded the city with barrages of cannon fire, smashing
buildings, sending cannonballs whizzing down Manhattan’s side streets, and
sending Manhattan’s residents running, screaming in terror.
That
the feisty Miss Margaret would find herself at dinner with Washington is all
the more remarkable because she was the daughter of Major Thomas Moncrieffe…of
the British Army, and she desperately wanted to be at his side.
Born
in Nova Scotia in 1762, she was a dark-haired beauty. Her “eyes [were] full of
witchery,” people said. When she was three, her mother died. For a
time she came under the protection of General Gage who commanded all the King’s
armies on the continent. She even lived in his home. But her father decreed
that she and her brother should be educated at Miss Beard’s boarding school in
Dublin, so off she went across the Atlantic, still only three years old.
The
next time she saw her father she was eight, and he had a new wife. She hailed from one of New York City’s most prestigious families, the Jays. “I did not
like my new mother,” Margaret later said. She would not see either parent for
another two years, when her father had her shipped to New York City where
he was stationed.
“The
heart-cheering smile”
Life
was sweet for the next two years, as her father was often at home, and she
could “bask in the heart-cheering smile of paternal fondness.” When her
stepmother died, her father remarried six months later as was often the custom.
Unfortunately
for Margaret, when her father went away, she had to live in the home of her
first stepmother’s brother Frederick Jay. He wholeheartedly supported the Revolution. This was intolerable to a teenage girl who adored her
soldier father and all that the British Empire stood for. She wrote that she
could not abide being “forced to hear my nearest and dearest relations
continually traduced.”
With
the invasion looming, the Jay family fled Manhattan to the comparative safety
of Elizabethton, New Jersey, and then to another village a further 10 miles
inland. Margaret could stand the patriot taunts and the separation from her
father no more, and when the family was at church, she stole a horse and fled
back to Elizabethton where she stayed with family friends.
Desperate
to cross back over the river to be closer to her father, she wrote a prominent
general in the colonial army Israel Putnam. She knew that he and her father had
been friends years before when they were both loyal to the King.
At
about the same time, the British commander Lord Howe wanted to engage Washington
in peace talks. A small British vessel under a white flag came to shore. Its
officer found Washington’s aide Colonel Henry Knox waiting, and he said, “I
have a letter, sir, from Lord Howe to Mr. Washington.”
“Sir,
we have no such person in our army with that address,” Knox replied, refusing
to accept correspondence unless the British acknowledged Washington’s rank, thus implying at least tacit recognition of the legitimacy of his cause.
The
next day a second British boat came to shore, also under a white flag. This
time the letter was addressed to “George Washington, Esq.” Again, Knox refused
to touch it.
On
the third day, the boat, again under a white flag, came to shore, and this time
the letter was addressed, not to Washington, but to the astonishment of the
colonial officers, its recipient was someone they’d never heard of—“Miss
Margaret Moncrieffe.”
While
preparing for battle, Major Moncrieffe had received word from the Jay family
that his daughter had run off. He was desperate to see to her safety and had
written the colonials inquiring as to her whereabouts.
Both
letters landed on Putnam’s desk at nearly the same time, and he wrote Margaret
saying that although he and her father were on opposing sides, he would “with
pleasure, do any kind office in my power for him or any of his connexions.”
A
day later, Margaret found herself ferried to 1 Broadway, Putnam’s home and the
headquarters of the continental army.
The
Putnam family gave her a spare bedroom, and the next day an unusually tall man with
a most dignified bearing and his plump and cheerful wife came to visit—George
and Martha Washington.
Margaret
wanted dearly to proclaim her loyalty to King George III, but she thought the
better of it, and she later wrote that the Washingtons “made it their study to
show me every mark of regard.”
A
few days later she found herself invited to a formal dinner hosted by General
Washington—this in the midst of the pending invasion. Someone
proclaimed a toast to the Continental Congress. Amid much clinking of glasses,
Washington noticed that Margaret had not lifted her glass. He frostily said to
her, “Miss Moncrieffe, you don’t drink your wine.”
Margaret, true to her father and his country, declared “General Howe is the
toast.”
This
did not go over well. There was much fussing. Stern reproachful stares were
likely directed at her until General Putnam said to Washington “everything said
or done by such a child out rather to amuse than affront you.”
Washington
turned again to Margaret and said, “Well, Miss, I will overlook your
indiscretion on condition that you drink my health, or General Putnam’s, the
first time you dine at Sir William Howe’s table, on the other side of the
water.”
Thus,
the future president proved his leadership skills, averting a minor diplomatic
crisis with his Loyalist teenage guest.
Fearing
that she was a spy, the Americans moved her to another home, and there she met
and fell prey to that most terrible of teenage afflictions—the romantic crush.
The object of her adoration? The ever-so-dashing twenty-one-year old Colonel
Aaron Burr.
“To him I plighted my virgin vow,”
she later recalled, calling him “the Conqueror of my soul.” Alas, destiny broke
them apart, and on August 7 she was rowed over to Admiral Howe’s flagship, the
Eagle, by a delegation led by Colonel Knox.
That evening she was invited to yet
another formal dinner, this one hosted by General William Howe, the brother of
Admiral Richard Howe. As many as 50 of the most prominent British military
leaders and their wives were there. In honor her dramatic arrival, Margaret was
asked to make a toast.
True to her word, she raised her
glass and asked everyone to toast to General Putnam’s health. As before, this startled
and offended all present, but General Howe made light of her remarks. Knowing
that Putnam was elderly and portly, he said to everyone’s amusement, “If he be
the lady’s sweetheart, I can have no objection to drink his health.”
What lay in store
If
this were a Hollywood story, Margaret would have somehow remained united with
her father through military campaigns, dressing his wounds, only to later be
reunited with the charming Col. Burr, and they would marry, have children, and
through many trials live to old age together on a technicolor farm.
Alas,
this is not what lay in store for Margaret Montcrieffe. Her father, not knowing
what to do with her and following the practice of the times, arranged for her
to be married to John Coghlan, a soldier whom she had briefly met at a dance.
She refused. To help her see the error of her teenage ways, he locked her in
her bedroom.
At
last, against her wishes, she married Coghlan, and he went away to fight. A
year later he returned, saying that he had sold his commission, was leaving the
army, and together they would return to England via Ireland.
Margaret
was the only woman on a troop ship carrying 600 or 700 men, and Coghlan was
such a drunken lout that the captain threatened to toss him in the brig if he
could not find the decency to treat his wife better, such were the ravings that
echoed from their tiny cabin.
When
she learned that her husband, like her father, also planned to imprison her until
she reformed, she ran off into the Irish countryside. Ultimately, she found her
way to London, but her behavior had become something of a scandal. Soon she
found General Gage, the former commander of British forces in North America, on
her doorstop. He told her that it had been decided that she would be shipped to
a French convent where she would live for three years.
Talking
her way out of nunnery with the aid of Lord Clinton, a distant friend whose home she had briefly lived in, she returned to London only to receive a letter from the
general’s wife saying that her father had disowned her. He would no longer pay
her expenses, and she was out of his will.
Resourceful—and
beautiful—she became the mistress of a prominent politician. She bore his
child. He left her. She took up with an aristocrat who squired her around
Europe. When that ended, she became the lover of yet another society gent. He
left her and left her with another child who died shortly after birth.
She
had two children with her next lover, an army captain. For a time, she thought
he would propose to her, but, no, he advised her that he was engaged to wed an
aristocratic lady and that, of course, his bride would raise their two children.
Another
lover followed as did massive debts. Facing debtors prison, she placed her own
obituary in the newspaper, and fled to Paris. The year was inauspicious—1787,
just before the French Revolution. Again, her bills mounted. She was put in a
French debtor’s prison—along with her two-year-old son. And she was seven
months pregnant.
Returning
to England, she was put in debtor’s prison in London. There she gave birth, the
delivery aided by a young inexperienced doctor. She and her infant lay naked
for two days until any attention was given to them.
Upon
being released, she learned her father had passed away. Now more creditors
pursued her, thinking she had an inheritance. Her beauty long gone, she knew
only one way to make enough money to pay her bills—She wrote a tell-all
autobiography, naming names, and sharing unseemly details.
Appearing
in 1794, it was titled “Memoirs of Mrs. Coghlan,” and it was a hit. However,
she did not sell enough copies to pay her bills, and in 1797, she was again
imprisoned. Six years later, she was freed. And still in debt. She wrote
various luminaries, including the King, seeking aid. None was given.
Again,
she was imprisoned. After that, nothing is known of her and her fate.
MORAL:
Let prudence temper courage.
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